Partnerships come in many forms.  It can be a love partnership or even a business partnership.  Regardless of the nature of your partnership, the important thing is that you approach it from an authentic space.

How many times do you think something that you want to share with your partner but hold back?

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I lived this out in my previous love and business relationships. What would he think about me if I actually said what was on my heart?Would he think I was needy? Maybe crazy? Would this be the thing that would chase him away? Or would it break his image of me as the “perfect” woman? Would my co-worker think I wanted special attention?

As I said, I have tried partnerships this way- hiding what was truly on my heart. I turned into a chameleon… always becoming what I thought someone wanted rather than allowing myself to just be.

The first relationship you have to get solid with is the one with yourself. You can’t trick your belief system.  When your focus is on the fear of all the “what if’s” and self created assumptions, that fear will keep expanding. And guess what?  Holding back your thoughts does not protect you from disconnecting with your partner-  it actually fuels a disconnection!

One of the strongest ways to grow and bond your relationships is to be authentically honest with your partner. Rather than base your decisions out of what you expect him or her to say or react, just be true to your own heart. Let your partner in.  Let them into the REAL you.

The key to speaking authentically in your relationships is to come from a space of love. This is not a time to blame or to let it “all rip” toward your partner. Your one responsibility is to live from love and speak from love.

Think through what things you are holding back from sharing with your partner. Then get clear on the reasons why. See if your reasons are based on assumptions or expectations of how they may react. Now shift those reasons and see how they can bring your closer. Share with your partner when you are grounded in this space of love.

Being open and authentic with your partner strengthens your bond and connection.  Approaching partnerships from this place fuels creation and inspiration.

Allyson

Allyson Spellman is a master goals and success coach and co-founder of HeartCore BootCamp- Empowering Women to Stop Settling. Along with her partner Shanda Sumpter, Allyson continues to help thousands of women all over the globe reach their goals and make lasting heart connections through HeartCore. She is also the co-host of HeartCore Radio on Contact Radio and the host of The Breakthrough Muse Radio Show with Allyson Spellman on Blog Talk Radio. Find her at www.heartcorebootcamp.com to receive 8 weeks of FREE empowerment coaching. Pick up a free HeartCore Jump Start Program at www.2DayJump.com. Follow her on Twitter, @HeartCoreGirls and @Breakthru_Muse.